Researcher had identify why some post divorced parents cannot close to their children whereas some can be close with their child? Researcher also suggested that children who have post-divorced father will have better outcomes if they being close with their father as some of father can be more loving and adaptable more that a mother can do.
Researcher also mentioned that, divorced father have superior communication skills in order to develop a good relationship with their child. On that purpose, researcher propose some objectives that a good relationship between post-divorced parents and children can be maintain whereas to some with poor relationship can being improved to the close relationships.
The life course perspective was divided into four which were, First, father-offspring relationship trajectories are best understood within their historical context. Second, the timing and sequencing of events are linked to the offspring's stage of life. Third, children and parents are active rather than passive in shaping their social environment. Fourth, the interdependence of lives over time emphasizes that people's decisions and circumstances affect the lives of others.
However this relationship always occurs among sons and father as sons are likely to have closer relationships with fathers prior to divorce and may be less likely than daughters to experience a decline in father-offspring closeness. Researcher also mentioned that Black will become more closer with their father compared to White whereas the Hispanic become less close with their father. Racial differences in no marital fertility, divorce rates, and socioeconomic status may contribute to racial differences in father-offspring closeness before and after divorce.
Age, gender, race, and socioeconomic status may also moderate the association between offspring's experiences and traits and postdivorce father-offspring closeness. For example, childbearing may increase the probability of maintaining a high level of father-offspring closeness or may increase closeness if it occurs when offspring are older but may reduce father-offspring closeness if offspring are teenagers and unprepared for parenthood. Interactions with offspring's age, gender, race, and parental education are examined to determine whether patterns of stability and change in closeness differ for early versus late adolescence, for sons versus daughters, across racial groups, or for offspring from lower versus higher socioeconomic backgrounds.
Although, there were many post-divorced father being closed with their children but the mother still being the majority in taking care of children. Even how close the relationships are, if the custody under mother, mother was have the right to determine whether the children can meet the father or not on the some reasonable reason that being proposed in the courts.
As conclusion, the post- divorced parents need to being value by their own children. It cannot being denied that mother-offspring bond, sense of well-being, and the adult role transitions of leaving home, post high school educational experience, becoming a parent, and cohabiting or marrying are found to be key in accounting for why some high-quality father-adolescent relationships remain the same and others decline and why some low-quality father-adolescent relationships remain stable and others improve.
ANALYZE AND PERSONAL COMMENTS
As for my opinion, I think some post-divorced parents should being close with their children as to build the superior image and good self -concepts about the children. As in this articles itself had mentioned that most of the children who have disclose relationship with their post-divorced father will have the good value of life.
Secondly, although the relationship between mother and father already over, but the father should realized that, the relationship between them and their children will not erased as that is their generations. On that concern, post-divorced father should develop an honest and good relationship with their children even after they had divorced.
Thirdly, as in we know, in Islam, a father had the right to become ‘wali’ for their daughter even after they divorced. If the relationship, between post-divorced father and children especially daughter in a good condition, the situation which need the father being there to become “wali” especially on his daughter special day, so, there were no difficullities to find the father as the children always keep in touch with their fathers. It also save time in searching the own father for that purpose.
As being mentioned in this articles, Black will become more closer with their father compared to White whereas the Hispanic become less close with their father. This situation may occurred because of the nature of Black which like to express their own feelings compared to other ethnics. This situation has make more of Black’s children become more adaptable with both of their parents even after they divorced and because of that situation their acceptance of their parents divorced was highly being accepted compared to those who does not.
Differ from west, not all of post- divorced father in Malaysia can have good communication relationship with their children after getting divorced. This situation occurred because of most of them trying to avoiding the history without knowing that their children is their future and not their history. But some of them being so nicely to their children as they want to prove to their ex spouse that they can be a good single parent.
In conclusion, as post- divorced father, the relationship between father and children should become eternity and no boundaries as father is one of the close person to children. Although the relationship between them did not close before getting divorced, they should build close relationship after the family broke down as the bond will go nowhere.